Mending a Broken Heart

If you can answer ‘yes’ to any of these questions here are some quick facts you might like to know right away…

  • You can cope, you can get through this, YOU WILL SURVIVE
  • Heartache is painful but it is not everlasting, it will get ease and YOU WILL GET BETTER
  • Grief can be disorientating and overwhelming, however uncomfortable GO WITH FLOW
  • Even if you can't see ‘how’ you will adapt, life will settle down and YOU WILL GET OVER YOUR EX
  • As one door shuts another opens; there is LIFE AFTER THE LOSS OF LOVE
  • You can MEND YOUR BROKEN HEART and emerge from the experience a WISER AND STRONGER PERSON

'Devastating' - I think that's a good word to sum up the pain of a broken heart, and I'm sure that those who have already trodden its well worn path, will agree with me when I say it's one of the most painful experiences you can go through.

When we are hurting and in distress it is hard to see beyond the loss to a future that is happy and healed. But there is one important thing to remember, however much you are hurting, grief is not everlasting: it is a process that you will move through, it is a journey of letting go, healing, moving forward and recovery.

That journey has a start (that's why you're hurting) a middle and an end. Whilst I would always encourage you to never loose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel what can you do right now? The answer is simple but not necessarily easy: try be kind to yourself, accept help, honour and respect your feelings and as far as possible ‘cut yourself some slack.’ This is no time to become a superhero; this is a time when you need to be your own best friend.

There is so much you can do to help yourself on your journey to recovery and there is lots of fabulous advice, guidance and wisdom, tools, tips and techniques that you can tap into on this website but to begin with let me share with you some simple do’s and don’ts that might help right now:

DO'S

    Take care of yourself in every and any way possible
    Have the courage to admit you’re vulnerable
    Respect your thoughts and feelings
    Rest, chill out, nap and sleep as and when you need and can
    Listen to your body and your instincts
    Talk to compassionate and trustworthy friends, family and colleagues
    Accept help, support, comfort and love from others

TRY NOT TO

    Belittle, ignore or deny how you feel, give in gracefully to your emotions.
    Act as if nothing has happened - let those around know what you’re going through.
    Fight the inevitable and waste your energy, if it’s over it’s over!
    Focus on the absolute necessities, everything else can wait
    Make any unnecessary decisions or actions
    Console yourself in unhealthy indulgences - they can make you feel even worse and more miserable!

So how long will you take to recover? That depends entirely on YOU. Do you want to do something about your broken heart or leave it to time to heal your wounds?

I hope it's obvious to you that the first option is the healthier one but just in case some of you out there need a bit more persuading here are just some of the amazing ways that you could help yourself if you wanted to…

Did you know it's possible to:

  • Soothe the pain of heartbreak
  • Speed up the healing process
  • Heal, mend and enrich your heart
  • Use this loss as a springboard for personal development, insight and empowerment
  • Become stronger, wiser and richer from this experience
  • Set yourself on the path to more fulfilling, healthier and even happier experiences and relationships

Taking a proactive role in your recovery is challenging and sometimes it might feel like the harder option but its rewards are tenfold. All the advice, wisdom, tools and techniques you need are on this website and in my book so have a look through the menu, download the free PDF's and do something positive for yourself.

Best wishes and good luck

Fiona